Rasha Ali, USA TODAY
Released 1: 57 p.m. ET Jan. 15, 2020
“Back in 1993, the second after I said yes to his proposal, I had doubts. I realized I did not actually need a union. I wished to be inquired,” Winfrey wrote. “I wished to know he felt that I was worthy of being his missus, but I didn’t want the sacrifices, the compromises, the day-in-day-out dedication necessary to make a marriage work. My life with the series was my priority, and we knew it.”
She added:”He and I agree that had we tied the marital knot, we would not still be together.”
Winfrey stated she’s a”spiritual partnership” with Graham, one where her partner was able to create an identity and purpose outside of being”Oprah’s man.”
Winfrey also recalled thinking Graham was a”participant” throughout their one of their initial experiences.
“I thought that he was fine enough, but I wasn’t that impressed. He was considerate, yes, and kind. The sort of man who stays with an ailing friend. Tall and handsome, for certain. But actually too handsome, I believed, to be thinking about me,” she wrote. “I figured he should be a participant. So did my manufacturers. They warned me not to get involved with this Stedman man”
Winfrey said the show required 17-hour workdays and she’d return home to her puppies and also to Graham. She said that her spouse let her be who she needed to be in the entire world.
“He is never demanding anything from me ‘Where’s my breakfast? Where is my dinner?’ Never any of this, which I thought would have changed had we married.”
She added:”No question about it — we wouldn’t stay married because of what that could have meant to himand I would have had my own ideas about it.”
She noted she considered having children with Graham.
Contributing: Sonja Haller